Chapter 25, Paragraph 2.
“Marriage was ordained for the mutual help of Husband and Wife,…”
Marriage is mutual. This means that in marriage you are not the star of the show. You are, however, the best supporting sidekick. As a wife, you are to aid your husband in whatever life brings to the two of you. Likewise, your husband is to help you. Isn’t that what the wedding vows entail when the bride and groom promise “for better or worse, for richer and poorer, in sickness and in health”?
Now, the help that your spouse may give you may not be quite what you were expecting when you said “I do.” Marriage is a great instrument of the Holy Spirit often used to work sanctification in His people. As you learn how to live with one another, you learn how to love one another. All the quirks and bad habits of your husband stir the pot of annoyance and discontentment that lurk in your sinful members. What do you do about it? Avoid it? Run away? Give in to temptation? Marriage forces you to deal with your own sin, and teaches you how to live with a sinner.
Living for others is hardly easy, but the mutual aid given by a husband and wife to each other is why marriage was created. Striving to put aside their own interests, the couple that seeks to serve the other obtains the reward of knowing someone in a way unlike any other relationship. Through praying for one another, forgiving one another, and trusting Christ to use that relationship for His glory, those who are married are able to grow in godliness.
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. -Philippians 2:3-4
Questions to Consider
- If you are married, how are you helping your spouse? If you are not married yet, how are you looking to others’ interests?